It was very hard to tell a guy I liked that I had herpes, hoping that they would still want to date me.
On the day she received a call from her doctor with the results of her test: If I get an outbreak I know how to treat it and help the outbreak heal as fast as possible. Herpes is split into the HSV-1 virus, also known as herpes simplex or oral herpes, that causes cold sores and mouth ulcers, and HSV-2, the genital herpes virus characterised by painful red blisters around the genital region. Unfortunately, there is no cure for herpes. Is it possible to successfully date and have relationships even though you have an incurable STI?
Alexandra definitely thinks so.
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She and her husband Bill worked together for six years before beginning to date and were married in November I told him and cried on his shoulder. He told me that everything will be ok and that he considered me family so if there is anything I ever needed, I should call him. Alexandra says that it depends on who you are and what you want from the relationship. Or sometimes people just want to lay it all out on the table to weed out prospects.
However, you do have to tell them if you are going to expose them to it. Having a minor skin condition in common is a shoddy foundation for a healthy relationship. I think most people who have had herpes for a few years know this too. The only people who ask me about herpes dating sites have just been diagnosed and are still daunted by the idea of disclosing—a fear I encourage them to tackle instead of pursuing these trap door dating sites.
Which leads me to my next concern: Some of them bring on consultants in the sexual health world, but only after the fact, and by and large their founders do not come from our community. These entrepreneurs may believe they have our best interests at heart, but they will never understand the stigma as well as someone who lives with it. They do not listen to the needs and opinions of this community, and they take funding and attention away from real efforts to provide treatment and testing, and to de-stigmatize sexual health.
STI dating services are almost always unethical money-grabs that prey on what seems like a potentially underserved niche market. This Silicon Valley opportunism is antithetical to real social change and progress. They reach out to me, share my posts and my talks on their social media platforms, and contact my fellow activists when I refuse to collaborate with them.
You cannot say your service fights STI stigma when it relies on stigma to exist. What we need is better sex education and health care, access to therapy and more representation. These companies are nothing but vultures, co-opting the language of activism. Get my name outcha mouth and get off my lawn. I contracted HSV-1 unknown location in my late 40s. Like other posters, I would rather avoid the worry of passing the virus to someone else by finding someone that already has it. My ex-wife had it, and I never worried about it.
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The irony is that I never got it from her after 17 years of marriage…I got it from a casual fling afterwards. Invariably, most of the women I find on the sites have HSV-2 genitally.
So far, ALL of the women in my area are Type 2. I have even been under considerable stress…and nothing. That look hurts me.
They have to decide if its worth it? Im like 8 years positive and i wonder about the sites, never touched them, but wondered because screw the talk…. Someone with it wont force me to experience that with them. I had sex unprotected and contracted so its my bad. Anyway, when you tell someone and they accept it, do you simply use antivirals, condoms, or just wait a week if you feel a sore? Thank you for this. My daughter recently contracted herpes and I was thinking about these sites as a way to support her.
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I am now looking at them in a total different light. On top of this, some people just have infections and not diseases. How to find marriage potential in the online dating world. Pierce says for starters, anyone with the disease or infection should know exactly what they have.
There is now a dating website for people with herpes
This is a good first step to find people who have gone through the same experience, she says. STIs on the rise in Canada and the U. In turn, someone with an STI could meet someone without an infection, but who is open to the idea of being with someone who does.
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In this situation, education is key, she says, and you have to be direct and confident to bring up the conversation as it comes.