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Some of our users may be the same people on Grindr, but people behave differently in different spaces. But is it hard to move away from labels completely? I mean, in the app, you choose what 'type' of bro you are — from 'jock' to 'fabulous'. How do you cater for all types of people when some may fall through the cracks between different 'types'?

Do you think that the design and the marketing may look a bit, well, straight though? For me, this is supposed to be a safe space for men to meet up and make meaningful relationships. If this app is the thing that someone needs to open up about themselves, then great. We built up 32, Facebook fans before launch. Then, there were a few articles, like one in Queerty, which made the app into a place for straight men looking for other straight men to get oral sex in secret.

There you go then. Most of the people I chatted to on there said that they identified as gay. People have called it an app for straight men because of the design, the logo, the name, the fact that interactions include 'fist-bumps'. But maybe that kind of behaviour doesn't have to be restricted to the 'straight' male community. After all, isn't that, in itself, just conforming to another socially-constructed idea of gender and sexuality? This app has caused loads of media speculation because, in some ways, it all seems so confusing.

People have taken it as an app for confused people. Maybe we're just thinking about it too much though. Maybe it's all pretty straightforward. Like BRO's mission statement puts it, a place, "for men that are interested in meeting other men… as simple as that".

Like I'm doing it all in secret. That's not because I'm a homophobe who doesn't want to be tarnished with homosexuality. It's because I'm in a happy relationship and I wouldn't want the missus or her mates catching me on there I think that's all it is, anyway.

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You can find one that fits your interests. If you get there and freak out, politely and quietly leave. You should always thank the host, and since sex parties can usually cost some money lube, cleanup, etc. You will get shit everywhere. The body is simply outside your control sometimes. It does weird things. You are only able to control it to a point. This story happens to all of us. When it does, picture me hugging you and telling you to be kind to yourself, love your body, and take fiber regimens like Metamucil or Pure for Men to prevent these sorts of mishaps in the future.

After dinner, we headed back to his place. In the door, he asked me an unexpected question: Have a good night.

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This has only happened to me once, in Atlanta. The whole evening was a farce; he had fetishized my HIV-positive status. Guys may fetishize anything about you, from your skin color to your body type to your height. For me, this was quite hurtful and frightening, particularly since he had gone through an entire very enjoyable dinner date before communicating this goal. I felt lied to, manipulated, and hurt.

Nearly all my boyfriends have permitted us to take home a hot guy at the bar, and nearly all my boyfriends have freaked out, gotten jealous, or otherwise regretted the decision. When my parents and sister were asleep in our hotel room, I grabbed a room key and snuck out to bum around down Ocean Avenue and cruise hot guys. I ended up hooking up with a tall blond guy from Berlin in the public steam room of a nearby hotel. It was going great … until a hotel attendant walked in and saw us.

They immediately left, probably to go alert a manager, and we had to grab our stuff and run. Horror stories about kidnapped Americans in foreign countries abound, partly because of Liam Neeson movies and partly because they happen every day. The risk of playing on drugs is that they can always take you to scary places. If you reach that point, sit down somewhere with someone you trust and breathe until it passes. If someone you know is reaching that point, simply sit there with him. A bad response is not the same as an overdose, which is much more serious and frightening. If no one is sober, call and get him to a hospital ASAP.

Sometimes I dare myself to go through with it, to see where it takes me. Meet in public, at a bar, or around people.

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All the horniness in the world is not worth risking your safety. For all the bad hookup stories, there are good ones. I must urge caution if you wish to play with drugs, since they so easily can lead to unhealthy nights and unhealthy practices.

They are a historic problem for gay men, and as such are something I feel need addressing. Take care of yourself above all other things in life. Happy Halloween, little devils. Your first anonymous hookup. Your first app hookup. Your first time in a dark backroom. When he wants to hurt you — and not in a good way. I thought you were kinky.

I like beating guys up. Your first time getting catfished. Your first kinky play date. When there are a LOT more people involved than you expected. Tip to avoiding this: Meet in a public place, in the daylight, where people are around.

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Your first hookup after you become HIV-positive. Your first hookup with a gay couple. Your first sex party. When you make a mess — that kind of mess. The first time you and your boyfriend take home a third. Hot, risky public sex. When he starts talking about fidelity and being faithful — after you just met.

Put on your clothes. Walk out the door. Hookups in the middle of nowhere.