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In my mind he might just need some more time or clarity to open up, 6 months is not a very long time so I don't think "throwing in the towel" just on account of it is a really great idea if you really want to get to know him, after all he did say he wanted to get to know you better. He might be having doubts about where it's headed in the future or just having second thoughts about it all, but it seems more like caution and slow-ness from what you described.

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Either way I think you should just ask him some more about what he's feeling and get him to check it truthfully with himself. It's not a good idea to force INFP's to rush into something they're not comfortable with, and "open up super open after 6 months of knowing each other or else I give up" may definitely not be his cup of tea. Last edited by Adonnus; at PsychReviews thanked this post.

I agree with Adonnus And about that initial excitement, it probably had him working a lot in Ne, which is his auxiliary, not dominant. In the end, he's an introvert. It takes energy to be like an extravert.

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He could have been giving his all to match your energy in the beginning, and now he has to recover a bit. About him coming up with a "good answer", do you come up with a definitive answer for complex questions all the time? Things are always in a state of change and modification, especially in one's emotional life. It doesn't have to be for good or bad, although it could be. Is it possible that your Te and Si are begging for a firm answer where one isn't needed yet? I find it very challenging to answer questions about my inner self, and depending on the question and person, I'm probably going to stall out like a bad engine.

I personally find it very challenging to say "I love you" to anyone, and I can't even whisper it to my dog.

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The second it leaves my lips, it feels like a lie. Sometimes you say something, whether you feel like it or not, because you know it's true. Sometimes you wait to say something until you feel and know it's true. Sometimes the feeling is too strong to be spoken in words, language, any form of communication, so it's best to be the truest of all and not even speak.


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I let them feel it in the breeze so they know the truth. But regardless of type, infatuation happens.

If you don't like him now, you can break up with him. But introverts "open up" best and fastest when you give them all the time in the world. I'm not a male, but your entire post made sense to me Lord Pixel thanked this post. Be patient 6 months is little and be present in his life, even if in a LDR. You can still talk on Skype, have fun, share your lives. If you want to get him to open up, shower him with real compliments and tell him how you appreciate all the nice things he does.

Yes, we have a tough time accepting them but we still want to hear them, especially how you feel about the nice things we do. Although we can do LDR, it kind of sucks to be in one, this may not be true for all INFPs, but I really need the physical presence of the other in my life. If this LDR thing will go for too long, I may fall out of love into a friendship. Do you like being in a LDR? Is there any way you see you two coming together? Even if it's a lot of time before things will change, make sure there is a clear deadline. This is kind of normal for INFPs, I think, we want to know the other really well before commiting to something more serious.

Of course, such characteristics could be found in individuals of nearly any personality type. In my post, IP Relationship Difficulties , I discuss some of the challenges IP types may face with regard to communication in relationships. INFPs must therefore be wary of the relational dangers of bottling their grievances or resentments. The 16 Personality Types: Posts for N Types. My thoughts would be if your with another INFP forget about who needs to be in charge and enjoy giving to each other.

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Both be in charge in a sense. I do agree with adagio in that I can't do anonymous or non-committed sex because it takes away the special bond between you and your partner. Hands down, far and away, giving is the greatest part. I like it way more than receiving. And yeah, I could cuddle all damn day and just listen to her. Can't do meaninglessly sex. It's genuine or nothing. I'd rather have you as [just] a friend then a fling if that's the case.

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I had sex with an INFP and loved it. Warm, cuddly, passionate, intense The only thing is that INFP doesn't seem to like to make the first move to the next base well. Essentially, I was always in charge if sex happened or not. Don't have a frame of reference honestly but I would imagine anything purely physical or degrading wouldn't be an INFP's style. Though that doesn't mean you can't be a little kinky The INFP male in bed: A lot more, lol.

Oh -- do bring those handcuffs, though. Likes a horizontal mattress universe to contain supernova big bangs -Wants you to have an experience similar to the poetic hyperbole in Sevyn Streeter's song, "Sex On The Ceiling" I've often struggled with the whole 'first move' thing. I don't like to make assumptions or feel like I have to persuade the person. I think INFPs are the sworn enemies of manipulation probably because we understand it so well. But once I receive even the tiniest 'go' signal, I shift into travel-guide mode and work toward taking the person on some incredible space-time journey in order to leave them with a meaningful and fulfilling experience.

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I felt goofy typing that, but it's true. I often wonder what it would be like to experience that myself. I find that freedom is best explored within boundaries. When there is safety, security, trust, and connection, we can not only go-with-the-flow, but if we're really connected, we can direct the flow as if with one mind. But that's rare, of course. I can definitely imagine the power struggle who takes the leading role. Generally I prefer to be led and maybe it's a INFx thing.

Males are not obligatory to dominate though. Again different strokes for different folks. I try to be very aware of my partner and I get the most satisfaction by putting their needs before mine and seeing that they are reaching their ecstasy excites me. Sex is the best when there is a real connection between my partner and I, not just a physical one. And yes, sex just for the sake has often given me a very bad vibe It just doesn't feel right.

It feels forced and fake when there is no true connection. You simply are aware of tantric love in your heart. Well, I can only speak for myself on this. I find that at the beginning of a relationship this is more of a problem. Though as time goes on, I become more open. I aim to please above anything